Surviving the Domestic Jungle

The Golden Globes were on last night and the best part, hands down, was Ricky Gervais who I find to be hilarious! I loved him last year and I loved him this year. I have been hearing buzz that some people think he went to far but I don’t think he did at all. I think a few of those Hollywood folks could use a little ego deflation. He just made fun of the rumors that are out there anyway. The only joke that was kind of rough was when Tom Hanks and Tim Allen were about to present and he said all of the great movies Tom Hanks has done and then just said Tim Allen like he has done nothing! That was a little rough but other than that, I loved his little remarks. Now, if all those jokes were made about me, I might be mad but they weren’t so I found it to be so funny. Another cute moment was Natalie Portman (who looked so pretty!) saying her finance wants to sleep with her. She is so sweet and lovable and she seems so happy! The fashion was so-so to say the least. No one looked gorgeous to me. Well, actually Jane Krakowski and Natalie Portman both looked radiant but the non pregnant celebs looked just ok. I’m sure close up they were flawless and perfect but from home, they just didn’t ‘wow’ me. Especially Sandra Bullock whom I love but she freaked me out because her hairdo reminded me of her ex husbands skanky affair Bombshell Mcgee or whatever her gross name is. Sandra could have done way better…..in fashion and men!! The one thing that annoyed me to no end was the whole “I’m so surprised” as they unfold their acceptance speech! Ugh so not cool in my opinion. They need to speak from the heart! It makes the speech so much better than just watching someone raffle off 25 names of people we have no clue about. Natalie Portman spoke from the heart and had an adorable speech. It makes such a difference in my opinion. I am so excited for the Oscars now and hope they bring a little more fashion and a little more heart and soul!!

When I lay in bed and everything around me is silent, my baby boy starts kicking and I cant express how special those little kicks are! He is doing well and getting big and tells me that through his movements. Even as I type this (quietly in my bedroom) he is moving my stomach around! It usually has to be somewhat quiet for him to be super active or maybe I only notice it when I take a moment and really rest. He uses my hip bones a lot to push off of which is the strangest sensation. Feeling your bone being pushed on from the inside is nothing like feeling it being pushed on from the outside. These are those special little things that you remember about your pregnancy and then one day tell your baby all about. I like to think that you get to know your baby before they are born but you have to pay attention. I knew exactly how Hailey would be and now with this one, I need a little more time but I think  I have him figured out too! Avery was harder to know but I was young and wasn’t as in tune with my body as I am now. Now I know myself and my body very well and I think my little guy will be a very happy baby who has some extra energy and yet has a very sweet nature about him. He seems like he might have a devious side but all in all, the ‘feeling’ I get is that he is going to be a strong, independent little boy! I really hope he is strong enough to hold his own with 2 big sisters and three girl cousins. He is surrounded by women and he is the only boy which makes him susceptible to a lot of torture through dresses, make up and perhaps some barbies! Hopefully one of my sister in laws get back on the baby train and make a little playmate for him! I look forward to holding him and seeing if he looks like me or his dad. Hailey looks just like my husband down to her toes and bum! She is literally a carbon copy of him and my oldest, Avery looks like me but she definitely looks a lot more like her dad. I hope he has something of me with his dad’s handsomeness mixed in. Either way, he will be a cutie and as my pregnancy is winding down, I just cannot wait to meet him! Our son will be born soon and our family will be complete

My kids are addicted to this new show on NickJr. called ‘Dino Dan’ and it is actually pretty cute. It is all about this little boy who is obsessed with Dinosaurs and spends his days doing Dino experiments and influencing his classmates and teachers to do something Dino related every class. My 2 year old, Hailey, has really grown to love dinosaurs because of it and has a couple of little dinosaur toys. Its not a cartoon and it keeps her interest so it must be good! The only thing a little off about it is Dan (the Dino kid) is the only one who sees the dinosaurs. Kind of weird but the kids don’t think about all that. You can actually learn a lot from the show and it is put into easy to understand kid terms. I always loved Jurassic Park and this show is kind of like that except without all the eating of people! It doesn’t show Dinosaurs as scary and even the T-Rex is portrayed as non threatening. Dan does say he is a meat eater but there isn’t any eating of other Dinosaurs on the show, but to be on NickJr, it had to be pretty tame. Of all the shows they watch, they definitely love their Dino Dan and I cant complain to much about this one. It is educational and entertaining which makes it OK with me! Most kid shows these days teach a language (Dora….Spanish Kai-Lan…Chinese) or manners/morals (Yo Gabba Gabba) or about using your imagination (Backyardigans) but this is the only one I know of (And I could be completely wrong about this) that is all about really teaching kids facts about things. They learn everything from weight and height to eating habits and whether they are nocturnal or not. Its a great show and if you have little kids, you should check it out!

I think I am going to give my opinion on the whole Kelsey/Camille Grammer divorce because this is one divorce I see it from his side. Normally I would say he was jerk for breaking up his family and ending up with a young girl but in this case, I applaud him. Have you ever seen Camille on The Beverly Housewives? She is insane!! She really has severe problems and I cant imagine their marriage was a fun for either of them. Nobody likes to be dumped and nobody likes to see their ex all over the papers (I mentioned this a few blogs ago) looking happy while you are at home crying. I feel somewhat sorry for her but if she is as difficult and superficial and just plain crazy with him like she is on tv, then I don’t blame him. His new girlfriend looks super sweet and just has a genuine face where as Camille has a pulled face that looks plastic. She is EXTREMELY inappropriate with other men on the show and is just an evil person in general. Go KYLE! Anyway, I am happy for Kelsey and I don’t really care about him at all as an actor but I think he made a good choice. Sometimes life is too short to be unhappy and when you are his age, I think that becomes apparent. Now Camille is doing all these interviews calling him out as a cross dresser etc. Does America really care or have sympathy for this woman? If he likes to swing from trees during sex, who cares? She is just being immature and doing her best to retaliate and I honestly cannot stand her. She is going to get something like 50 million dollars from him and I’m sure houses and other forms of assets and she really doesn’t need to take the low road. Kelsey is happy and moved on and she is staying stuck and hoping for America’s sympathy but from everything I have read on message boards, not many people feel too sorry for her. I feel sad for her children but not for her and I hope everyone finds peace with this very soon because I don’t want to hear anything else about Kelsey Grammer and sex!

The most important reproductive organ lies between the ears: The brain.” ~ Erich von Däniken / I wish EVERYONE could understand this. Lust & infatuation, while off-the-hook & vertigo-inducing, WILL pass over time… IF an intellectual connection, mutual respect, & sweet enchantment about each other’s presence, remains AFTER the primal urges have been satisfied, THEN you’ve found your Grail…

I love that quote for so many reasons that I had to include it. It is soooooo true! So many people get wrapped up in lust and infatuation and never truly have an intellectual relationship. The one thing my husband and I are really good at is intelligent conversation! Our first date lasted 12 hours and was all talking! And walking on the beach in the moonlight. Very romantic story and I will have to tell it one day. Even the other night, we were up until 2:30am just chitchatting and enjoying each others company. The sex is wonderful (2 kids in 2 years proves that) but our relationship goes very deep when it comes to what we talk about when its just us. When I was younger, I didn’t care as much about an intellectual connection but now, it is mandatory. We don’t have to believe the same by any means but we need to be able to share our thoughts and have a mutual respect for each others opinions. I personally think the relationships that last the longest are based on an intellectual connection. When it comes to sex, you can grow and change that relationship. Experimentation can take you anywhere you let it but the intellectual stuff has to be there! You can connect so much better physically when you are connected mentally and emotionally. I think a lot of people lose sight of the connection required to keep a relationship going over the years and focus on the stuff that doesn’t matter. So what if he doesn’t buy you flowers on Valentines or remember your anniversary one year! Can you talk to him? Can you tell him your hopes and dreams or even fears and know he cares and is really hearing you? That’s what’s important! Flower’s on Valentines wont lead to beautiful sex, (well maybe but just go with my point!) knowing that you are with a man who loves you, cares about what you have to say and hangs on your every word will get you ‘love making’ and that is better than plain old sex any day of the week!!

Side Note: That quote comes from Giorgio Tsoukalos who is a brilliant man who everyone should know about. Google him if you are curious. He has a lot to do with the Ancient Alien theory. If you have never heard of that, Google that too!!

I am beginning to discover what an ugly emotion jealousy is. It has effected me and a somewhat similar situation for my sister in law. I dont get jealous about much but it seems a lot of people get jealous about love and get mad at those that have it. When I say love, that encompasses everything like family, children and spouses. I have told my husband many many times that even on our worst days as a married couple, there are still millions of people who would love to have what we have. We didn’t have the smoothest start (1st year is the hardest so they say!) but now our relationship is beautiful and for the most part very loving, tender and special! I know that sounds cheesy but its true and the only way I can express it. My husband is a really good guy and come so far for me and I have come so far for him! We have really worked on our relationship but that doesn’t mean I don’t get jealous about other women….occasionally. It doesn’t effect me all that much because I know my husband well enough to know he loves me and would never do anything to jeopardize our marriage and no cheap thrill is going to make him lose his family. On that note, he is a man and I know he checks out other women and can appreciate a nice looking woman. Of course this NEVER happens when he is with me but I don’t live in denial that he is never going to look at another woman and think she is attractive. I look at other men but to be honest none of them even remotely compare to my husband. To me, he is gorgeous!! Other than that nonsense, I don’t get jealous of much. If somebody is richer or has a nicer car, it doesn’t bug me. I like my life and feel very content with what  have and should I one day have more, that would be ok but it’s not something I focus on. I don’t keep up with trends and I couldn’t imagine spending 400 on shoes or a purse! That’s money I could put towards doing something as a family or something my kids need. Anyway, the jealousy that is affecting me and my sister in law is the kind of jealousy where people want your ‘love’. Basically they are so unhappy in their lives that they lash out and attack what you have. It is what I call unprovoked anger. For no reason you get negative insults hurled at you so that they can feel better about what they don’t have. That’s the kind of jealousy that I just don’t have time for. I’m a very rational person and I don’t tolerate much nonsense and when it comes to behavior like that, I personally couldn’t be bothered. My sister in laws situation got ignored and moved on from which I understand because sometimes with people who are unhappy and feeling sorry for themselves, it is easier to just forget it because talking it through opens a whole new can of “poor me” that no one wants to deal with. I guess that I have a pretty good life when someone else is jealous of it. Makes me feel like I have accomplished something great! I know I have met couples that I thought looked like the perfect couple and I always remind myself that every couple has something they are dealing with and ‘perfect’ is just an illusion. We have our own troubles but for the most part we have learned to deal with them and move on in our lives. Bottom line, you can never have what me, my sister in law or anyone else on earth has because you remove one element and it’s a completely different situation. Be happy with what you have and above all, don’t be jealous of other people. Focus on the good in your life! Never hate someone because you feel they have something better than you. All it does is make you look like a bitter, angry individual and nobody wants to be known for that! Message of the day: Love YOUR life!!

I am happy to announce I have a STALKER! My very first one!! Im actually a tad honored that someone has that much of an interest in me. I write this blog because I enjoy it and for those who dont enjoy it, why read it? Why waste your time worrying about me? This in my outlet, my design, my idea and my joy and to invade it with toxic opinions and crazy talk is just a waste of your time, not mine. I am flattered that I have readers whether they are crazy or not. Even crazies need something to read!! I welcome my biggest fan to continue reading what I have to say as I touch on many topics and have a broad spectrum of opinions. Dear Stalker: Continue reading my blog since you are obviously liking it and just keep the crazy talk to yourself. Enjoy!

The baby boom continues to take over in Hollywood! Who’s left that isnt pregnant? Joan Rivers! That’s about it! The most recent is Kate Hudson and with her first pregnancy, I remember she made serious headlines for the amount of weight she gained. Side note: I gained that much with my first! It was gross and awful and took me a long time to lose it all. At least I didn’t have the press taking pictures of me and chronicling the whole thing. Anyway, she is pregnant by some guy she has been with for 9 months and I cant help but wonder why most of these pregnant ladies are not wives first. Granted it is 2011 and not 1956 but it seems like marriage kind of has gone out the window when it comes to having kids, especially in Hollywood. Now, their marriages rarely work out but that’s most marriages nowadays and I think that is so sad. Marriage is hard work and a lot of people marry someone who is not right and divorce but some people just don’t want to put forward the effort. It is effort and work and hard and stressful! Marriage does not equal fun but it is still worth it! I would hate to get divorced in Hollywood and have my ex plastered all over magazines with his new flame! Ouch! Some of the new boyfriend/girlfriend stories start the day after the divorce is announced and that is just painfully quick. It always makes me think of Jennifer Aniston when Brad Pitt left her and then had a bunch of kids and is in one of the most famous couples in the world and also looks very happy with his life. That must have been pretty crappy for her at first to see it all happening so quickly. Brad’s spot in Jen’s bed wasn’t even cold before he was in Angelina’s! And the whole world knew it! Jennifer gets looked at with pity and sympathy but I think she has a good life and I cant wait to see who she ends up with. Anyway, somewhere down the line, having a baby and being married became an old fashioned concept and I personally think it should be brought back. I cant wait to see who is announced tommorrow! This boom has no end in sight!!

So pretty much everyone in Hollywood is pregnant! Everyday it is someone else and I’m not talking the b list celebs, I mean big stars! Like Natalie Portman ( I never expected her in a million years!) Pink, Jewel and Posh Spice!!!! I love a good baby boom in Hollywood mainly for the insane names they come up with. Some I like, some I find to be child abuse! I get the whole I’m a rich celebrity so I can name my child a crazy name but that poor baby has to go through life being made fun of. Kids are cruel no matter how rich or poor or anonymous or famous! I always chose my kids names after I have gone through all the possible ways they can be made fun of. So, with that said, I think I am finally ready to announce the name we have chosen for our baby boy. We don’t have a middle name yet but we are working on it and my husband came up with a name the other day that we will probably go with but I don’t know for sure so I am not saying! So the name we chose is……HUDSON! When I heard it many many weeks ago, it just stuck with me and nothing else has grabbed me. Nothing. Not one other name in the entire world has even remotely interested me after I heard Hudson. I think it is a strong name that is cute for a child yet translates well into adulthood. Everyone I have told so far loves it, but they might all be liars so who knows! My husband took a while to come around but he just couldnt think of anything that he liked so I think Hudson just grew on him. He picked Hailey’s name and I wasnt crazy about it but I couldnt imagine her as anything other than Hailey and I think that is kind of the same situation here. I think it was a little more….exotic…than he is accustomed to but I know he loves it now. He came up with a very cool middle name so we will see what it ends up being because we never agree on middle names! We drew Hailey’s middle name out of a hat as we were being discharged from the hospital and had to finish all the paperwork!! Anyway, before some celebrity names their baby Hudson and steals my name, I wanted to make my announcement first!!

My sister in law might kick my butt for this but I have to mention what happened to her the other day at the grocery store. She was stopping by quickly on a Friday night on her way home from work and she had my niece with her who was born prematurely and is doing well but her health must be carefully guarded, like all babies health. She doesn’t like taking her to the grocery store but does on occasion and when she does, pretty much keeps her in her car seat, with blankets covering her. When she was in the produce section, this man came over to her and commented on my nieces eyes and then started putting his hand towards the baby and my sister in law freaked out. She started by saying “please don’t touch my baby” and he did not listen and continued to make a move inside her safe, sterile cocoon. My sister in law eventually was screaming at this man who proceeded to put his hand on my nieces head and whisper something. The thing that horrified me was no one helped her!!! No one came to a screaming mother’s aide with a strange man touching her infant. I have to say WTF to that! I would have been to any mothers aide if she was screaming at a man to stay away from her child. What is wrong with people???? Why did no one step in and help her?? She said she got very emotional and was in awe of the fact that no one stepped in. If you dont know this rule, learn it here. You never touch an infant unless it is family. Never ever touch a strangers child unless you want trouble. That is not your child and you never know if the child has health conditions. People love babies and with my own children I had to fight off a few weirdos but please, never touch babies and always help out your fellow mother! We need to be more proactive in helping each other instead of leaving each other feeling traumatized next to a pile of grapes in the produce section. If I were her, that mans hand wouldn’t have made it to my child! I would have grabbed it and threw it back at him but that’s just me and my violent ways when the mother bear comes out!!!! My mother bear is crazy and I dare anyone to touch my infant without some sort of confrontation. She didn’t understand why this man would touch her child and whisper and was quite freaked out by it all. She is a minority and so was that man but they are not the same minority and do not have the same superstitions. I am all for tolerance when it comes to different cultures coming together but leave the babies out of it. If the mother is hysterical back off!! OHHH this topic makes me mad for so many different reasons! Bottom line, help each other out!! Don’t just be a deer in the headlights who stares at someone in need!! Actually help them!!!