Surviving the Domestic Jungle

Gosh, I haven’t written in a while. Life has a way of being a huge distraction and pain in the ass occasionally! There’s a famous quote by, I believe, John Lennon that says, “Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans.” I couldn’t agree more Mr Lennon. When I was a little girl and I had my life planned out in my head and how every detail was going to go, the way things actually turned out were not apart of the plan. Somethings I wish I had done differently and now that I know what I know, I would have made better choices but I don’t regret anything. It has been an interesting road and I don’t think that this road will become a perfect, straight, bump free road at anytime soon. There’s always going to be something and to some degree I like the element of surprise that life throws at you but in other ways, those surprises can be awful. One phone call, letter or chance encounter can change your whole life out of the blue on some regular Tuesday afternoon. Sometimes the element of surprise is good and sometimes it is a bad surprise and I guess that’s where the saying “Take the good with the bad” comes into play! All these little sayings about life are all true at some point or another. Anyway, that’s about where I am at and I will write more today to make up for my lack of entries.

This whole Leann Rimes cheating scandal stuff is driving me crazy! Is it ever going to go away? Not if the ex scorned wife doesn’t stop blabbing to the press every little detail. I am in no way understanding or believe in affairs. I think if you make a commitment then you need to stick to it and if you feel the desire to look elsewhere, you need to leave your partner before you cause major issues. With that said, when it is a year and a half later and the ‘affair’ couple are still together, I think it needs to be a dead topic. It wasn’t like Leann was like that Tiger Woods affair Rachel Uchitel (who I think is disgusting although I believe Tiger is 30000 times worse) who all she did was sleep with him KNOWING he had a family and it obviously wasn’t about love. Eddie and Leann, I think, genuinely love each other and I think people need to ease up on her. SHAPE magazine had her on the cover then said they were sorry they had a “husband stealer” on the cover then retracted that and said 40 or 60 people out of 6 million complained about her being on the cover. So Leann had to go through more humiliation on top of all the humiliation she has already had to endure. Yes, she made a huge mistake and her AND Eddie ruined their marriages but at the same time how long is someone to be punished? Angelina Jolie came out of her own husband stealing scandal with no problems and if Eddie’s ex Brandi Glanville had half the class of Jennifer Aniston, she would STOP talking about it and making sure everyone knew just done wrong she was. Jenifer got in her few jabs but other than that she has kept quiet and that’s how to handle it. I was reading comments from people on some celebrity site and the backlash has started for the ex wife Brandi because people don’t want to hear your dirty laundry years later. At first its juicy and people love to know every detail but eventually people just want you to go away. One commenter said she needs to get a life and I agree. I cant imagine that what she went through was easy but she needs to stop trying to play the I’m a victim card and just accept, forgive and move on and know there is someone better out there. You cant open another door without closing the first one and she needs some sort of closure that she is not going to get. There’s no real reason people cheat except for self satisfaction and selfishness. It’s gross and must have broken her heart and I feel for her as most of America did but now its time to end the Leann attacks and time to let her and Eddie live their lives and for Brandi to move on and become a slightly more private person. I’m hoping all this nonsense resolves itself and those 3 find some sort of closure and healing for those kids sake because when they are old enough, they can google every dirty detail of their parents divorce and who would actually want their kids to see all that?

It has gotten pretty cold here the past couple of days and after scanning my closet for winter clothes, I realized I have none!! Especially none of the maternity kind. I think that’s why the winter here feels so cold to me, I don’t have the clothing to be warm! 10 months of the year it is sunny and hot and for the few days in the winter that are cold, I am just not prepared. My kids are in the same boat. I have to buy them all new winter clothes every year, due to them growing, and I never know how many pieces to buy. A good coat always helps but snuggly sweaters are the best! When you live in a more northern environment I would think that you would have very few summer clothes and some places up north you even wear sweaters and coats at night in the summer! Here it is just the exact opposite! The less you can get away with wearing the better! The problem with that is 99% of us don’t look good in very tiny clothing!! I would love to complain about the cold but I actually enjoy it a bit. My hair is always so much better than when it is humidity of 1002 and it just fluffs! The clothes are cozy and it makes you want to cuddle on the sofa and watch movies and drink hot tea or cocoa! It is just the time of year you want to be warm, drink and eat warm and hang out with people you love by the fire! I just enjoy the different feeling of this time of year. I cant explain the feeling but I’m sure I am not the only who enjoys the ‘warmth’ of the cold and who doesn’t love a good sweater!!

P.S. I included a few stay healthy this winter tips!!

Today I was sitting in the parking lot of Old Navy, finishing up a conversation with my sister in law while Hailey slept, and saw something that made me want to get out of my car and start a scene. This woman had put her two little boys (under 3) in their car seats of her minivan and then hopped in the front seat and lit a cigarette with all the windows up! I want to just lecture women who do this until they ‘get’ that what they are doing is wrong!! She did eventually roll her window down an inch but it is so awful it makes me want to just cry. Do you actually think your kids like your disgusting cigarettes? Do you think it is good for them? Do you not know how selfish you are??? If you want to smoke, smoke before you get in the confined space and poison your children. It is a proven fact that second hand is just as bad if not worse to breathe in and Ill bet those kids are more susceptible to colds and respiratory problems such as asthma. I feel sorry for those little boys and I gave her such a disapproving look without meaning to but I cant help it! It is child abuse in my opinion and no different than sharing a beer with your baby. There probably mothers who do that to but it is no different in my mind. Whether you give them some of every beer you drink or they breathe every cigarette you smoke, you are being irresponsible and selfish. Do not even start me on pregnant women smoking! I want to slap those women and yell at them! You have 9 months of sacrifice to create a healthy little person and you should do everything in your power to make sure that happens and somehow cigarettes don’t fit in that equation! Sure babies are born fine from chain smoking mothers but that does not make it right! This is not 1954 when we were all ignorant about pregnancy and what actually passed through the placenta but now we have the tools and the education to know better yet continue to do things we know are bad. It just drives me crazy and makes me so sad. I hope that mother and all mothers that smoke while pregnant or while in a confined space  eventually stop thinking about themselves and think about their children.