Surviving the Domestic Jungle

Ahh Sex and the City. What a fabulous show that has now transformed into fabulous movies. It is the ultimate chick flick but they aren’t just a Hollywood formula movies. They are movies that are so fantastically written that each one has brought out every emotion I am capable of feeling. The first one was about love and how forgiveness can go hand in hand with it. If you didn’t cry when Big left Carrie at the alter and they bumped into each other in the street and she hit him with her roses then you are heartless and have no soul! That movie moved me so many times. Between the Carrie pain and the Charlotte joy I really loved every moment of that movie. It showed how every relationship has struggles and we are all human and make mistakes. All of us make mistakes and all of us hope at some point for forgiveness and the funny thing about forgiveness is you usually have to be willing to give it to receive it. Forgiving someone can be harder than loving someone which is why there are probably so many divorces or relationships ending. Some things are unforgivable but I believe that is a very personal choice. There are things people have forgiven which I could never and there are things I have forgiven which other people couldn’t. Its all relative to your relationship and your beliefs. Either way, the first one really warmed my heart and made me think about things a little differently. Of course it was a movie and fantasy and blah blah blah but the message is real. The point they are trying to convey is real and should not be over looked because of the killer wardrobe those women wear!

The second one I watched tonight and was so touched again that I had to write. It is very late but there was no way I was going to sleep without processing what I have just watched. The second one was definitely lighter than the first. More humor and silliness but the topics they cover are just as real. Miranda and Charlotte talking about being mothers and wondering if they are terrible mothers is what got me the most. I suffer everyday from wondering if I am the worst mother in the world. Everyday I worry that I am doing something wrong or not doing enough or basically just screwing my kids up with every action and word I speak. I think most mothers worry and I think it’s because we worry that perhaps we are good moms. What would it mean if I didn’t worry? I would just think I was the best? That sounds a lot crazier to me than a mother who worries that they are terrible. I think just the act of worrying is being aware of your actions which means you put thought into it which is never a bad thing. Mothering is not easy and nothing and no one can prepare you for how hard it can be. How emotional and terrifying it can be! There’s a moment where they toast all the mothers who do it without help and I thought to myself that they have pretty easy lives but for a mom like me who does it with no help, what is my alternative? I have to do it all and I enjoy doing it all. I dont want a nanny to raise my children or to clean my clothes or to make me dinner. I want to do those things for my family and even if I could afford a nanny full time, I would never get one. Your kids are only little for so long and then they’re teens and think you are a loser and want nothing to do with you and then they are adults and have their own lives. I cherish these years where my girls want me around and need me around. And to be honest, I need them as much as they need me. There were many other elements to the movie that touched me but the main thing was the mother scene. Running into Aiden in the middle of nowhere seemed a little stupid but at the same time, without that element Carrie would have never realized that she is content sitting on the sofa with the man she wanted to love her for 10 years and now she had him. Sometimes we need reminders of the fact that it is ok that our lives have changed when love and marriage enter them. Its ok to be boring and spend Saturday nights in because all those single people out there, they are looking for someone they can sit on a sofa with on a Saturday night. All in all, fantastic movies. If you are going to be or have watched them try to see through to the deeper message because the movies just become so much better when you get to the heart of them.