Surviving the Domestic Jungle

The last 2 days my laptop has been confiscated by my husband for something for work blah blah blah boring boring boring! He’s a “computer guy” and I fall asleep whenever he tries to explain things to me! I’ve missed my blog and had many great topics to discuss but my lifeline (laptop) was in use for other things. First thing that came to me to talk about was genuine happiness for others. I don’t mean ‘oh I am happy for you’ I mean ‘I am so happy for you I literally feel like crying’. Well, I had a moment the other day where I felt genuine happiness. My friend since the first day of first grade is having a baby and she had posted some pictures of her beautiful belly on facebook and I just felt so happy for her. Without getting into details of her life, she has had some sad things happen and this little baby is a very wanted joy in her life and I know she will be a fantastic mother! The topic got me thinking about different levels of happiness for others. I believe that there are different versions of happy. There is of course genuine happiness where you feel so happy that not one negative thought enters your mind and you feel like crying (well I do but I am a little emotional) then I believe there is ‘polite happiness’ where you say you are happy for someone but behind it comes a negative thought. Example: Your friend tells you they got a new job and you say ‘oh that’s great! Im so happy for you’ and then in your head you think ‘you aren’t qualified’ or perhaps ‘how long til you get laid off’ or maybe ‘I wanted that job’ or maybe even some variation of this but basically something that is very contradicting of what you just said out loud to your friend. My personal favorite is when you tell people you are pregnant or engaged. People tend to be a little more forth coming with how they feel about those topics but it is still the same general idea. Instead of us all judging people to the standards that we believe they should live up to, we should just be happy for people when they are happy! We should shut the heck up with our opinions and just be genuinely happy for someone who is embarking on a new life, marriage, job, house, car etc. The negative thoughts will always cloud our minds and where so those even come from?! Why does the mind do that?! I know I am guilty of this and I sure know that people are guilty of doing this to me. I am from here on out going to make a conscience effort to feel genuine happiness for everyone that is happy about something in their lives and hope that somebody feels genuine happiness for me in the future. We could all use a little more love and happiness at the end of the day!!

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